I found myself between the proverbial rock and hard place. I couldn’t make a living with the revised territory, and I couldn’t get another job. I was angry and bitter.
Then, one day, out of the blue, I had
a realization. It wasn’t them; it was me! Yes, the company had treated me badly. Yet, the product was still incredible, and the opportunity was still huge. The problem wasn’t them; it was my bitterness and anger that was holding me back. The problem with my performance wasn’t them, it was me.
When I realized that the issues holding me back were within me, I then had the power to do something about it. That realization was like a huge weight off my shoulders. I wasn’t a victim. I could change myself.
While I initially stumbled across this lesson – that for most people, the biggest obstacle to their success resides inside them – I found it confirmed repeatedly in my work as a sales consultant. Here’s how it manifests.
Focusing on circumstances
It must be human nature to look for the causes of our problems in the external environment instead of looking inward and searching ourselves. In my work with salespeople, I’ve often heard that the problem was the competition, the customer’s unrealistic
expectations, the personality of the customer, their company’s inability to do something, etc. It never occurs to most salespeople that the problem might be them. Did they create a trusting relationship? Did they strive to know the customer’s situation as deeply as possible? Did they present the best solution in a persuasive and thorough way? Have they identified and addressed the customer’s concerns?
Over 100 years ago, James Allen observed.
“Men are often interested in improving their circumstance, but are unwilling to improve themselves, they therefore remain
bound.”
~ James Allen
The situation is complicated by the fact that sometimes the issue is in the
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